What is it to be a man?
A question that haunts the dreams. A quandary that reigns supreme in the nightmares of all lads, big and small, young and old. To say that an answer to such a mystery exists and any mere mortal knows it, preposterous! An act equal to that of challenging The Creator for only He can succinctly know all there is to be known, for after all He is omniscient. However being directly affected one may hazard a guess. It goes something along the lines of… A man primarily fends for himself and those he holds dear. He will put the needs of others before his own. He shall, solely by the sweat of his brow and the bending of his back work tirelessly to better himself. And to seek out what would seemingly be a reason for his existence. He shall carry his problems silently. Discretely bear the cross of the consequences of his decisions, adverse or otherwise. To be a man is to stand up to defend what rightfully belongs to oneself. When frightened facing fear with courage so ferocious, trepidation becomes a strength rather than a weakness. It means a mastery of the four cardinal virtues; Fortitude, Justice, Prudence and Temperance. To be a man is not a matter of your gender orientation or sexual predisposition. Male or female we all either answer the call to ‘man up’ or cower in fear and grovel through a shamed and miserable existence.
That said, it does seem like a daunting task. So much so we may be tempted not to rise and be counted. A sage once said, “The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who in times of adversity maintain their neutrality.” The most defining thing about moving on from blissful childhood is taking control. We need to be able to make our own decisions. It does not mean you have to be a stellar citizen no, far from it. It just means when you decide to hit the snooze button, wake up late and miss your meeting. You admit none else is to blame but yourself and you can live with that fact. Choose to be lazy not letting your body weigh you down. That in itself speaks volumes about courage or blatant stupidity. As with all else it’s a matter of perspective.
In whatever challenge you face, it would be ill advised to go with the flow. Once the chips fall whatever follows will be much easier to face if the decision made was yours whether well thought out or brash. There’s an air of confidence in living in a world of your own making that will cushion you from regret. Try it today, life’s tough but this way it will be bearable.